Photographer's Note

... probably the last in the series

(see/read the beginning of women are from venus and men are from mars here)

Centuries before the martians and venusians got together, they’ve been quite happy living in their separate worlds. Then one day everything changed. The martians and venusians suddenly became depressed. It was this depression that motivated them eventually to come together. Understanding the secrets of their transformation helps us today to recognize how men and women are motivated in different ways.

Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed. Women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished. These secrets of motivation are still applicable.

Most men have little awareness of how important is for a woman to feel supported by someone who cares. When a woman is upset she needs to feel she is not alone. She needs to feel loved and cherished. Empathy, understanding, validation and compassion go a long way to assisting her in becoming more receptive and appreciative of his support.

Men don’t realize this because their martian instinct tell them it’s best to be alone when they’re upset. When she’s upset, out of respect he will leave her alone or if he stays, he makes matters worse by trying to solve her problems.He doesn’t instinctively realize that what she needs most is just someone to be there, someone to listen, someone who cares.

He has to listen to her. Even if at first she sounds like blaming him. He has to help her to open up and trust by doing little things for her. To show he cares.

Instead of blaming a man for giving less, a woman can accept and forgive her partner’s imperfections, especially when he dissapoints her. Trust that he wants to give more but he doesn’t know how.

* excerpt from Men are from Mars, women are from Venus by John Gray, Ph. D.

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